10 things your bridesmaids should know before they say “I DO” to YOUR big day!

Who doesn’t want to have an awesome #bridesquad to help encourage them during the planning process but most importantly to stand with you as you say “I do” to the love of your life.

So what should your bridesmaids know about being a bridesmaid?

  1. What costs they can expect for the day.  It’s important to be upfront with your girls on the estimated costs they will be responsible for.  The costs often include bridesmaid dress, shoes, hair & make-up, jewelry and accessories, and travel and hotel if needed.
  2. Provide them with key dates and times they will need to be available for dress fittings, luncheons, and wedding rehearsal.
  3. What pre-wedding day responsibilities do you expect them to oversee, such as planning your bridal showers, bachelorette parties, taking on wedding planning tasks, or even running errands for you the weeks leading up to your big day.
  4. What is the Overall Bridal Party Look.  Provide them with details such as how you want them to wear their hair, specific nail color, shoe color and style, and wedding accessories.
  5. Who is your “go to” person for wedding day.  I know every body loves the bride and wants to help but there should be one contact person from the bride’s side and the groom’s side who will coordinate with the wedding planner in regards to timeline details and questions that need to be answered.  Having multiple people contact your planner with questions or feedback can become very confusing and time consuming.  You don’t want time taken away from you or the important details that need to be managed.
  6. What they need to do on Wedding Day.   Your planner will provide the wedding rehearsal and wedding day timelines.  You can also tell each girl any specific duties you have assigned to them such as taking your dress to the venue, making sure your wedding bag is packed, or carrying and responding to your phone calls/text messages.
  7. Provide transportation details for wedding day.  Although you will provide wedding day transportation to the wedding and reception but the bridesmaids will need to consider how to get to the designated meeting point and how to get their cars to the reception site (if different locations).
  8. Who will bustle your dress.  All wedding dresses have different bustling techniques.  You should make sure that at least two of your bridesmaids are able to know how to help bustle your dress.
  9. Be a listening ear. Wedding planning can at times become a little stressful when you have so many decisions to make.  A planner will help to minimize this stress but sometimes you just want to release with one of your closest friends.  Your girls should know that you love them and appreciate their support but sometimes you just need to vent, and that’s okay :).
  10. Lastly they are there to support you!!!  I know it is easy to focus on not liking the dress chosen, or their shoes not being comfortable, or even thinking they would do something differently during the planning process.  But it’s important to remember that it’s not about what they don’t like, it’s about what they do like and that’s YOU.  And the most important thing is to make sure that you’re happy and stress free on one of the most important days of your life.  Remember it’s about team #bridesquad not team #bridesmaidsquad.

Picking your bridal party is a very important task and it is a very fun role.  But with that role comes some really important responsibilities.  I think it’s important to share this commitment with your girls so they know exactly what’s expected of them so you guys can have a stress-free day and really enjoy the time together.

Next post we’ll be talking about some exciting ways to ask your Wedding Party to be a part of your special day.  We would love to hear from you, so how did you ask your bridal party to be in your wedding?

 

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Picking Your Wedding First Dance Song

I can’t tell you how many times my couples have asked what song they should use for their first dance.  Well I think that depends on several things.

  1. Do you have a special song?  This can be one that reminds you of when you first met, your first date, or even the first time you heard the word “I Love You.”
  2. What’s your favorite type of music.  We often think first dance songs have to be slow, but if you are the type that likes to boogie, why not start your party off with boogieing to a smooth and groovy tune.
  3. Is your wedding following a certain theme/era?  If so then you may want to get your inspiration from that!  How cool would it be to dance to “It Had to Be You” at a Roaring ’20s themed wedding.  I can see it now a swing band with someone belting out the tunes (sorry I just got lost in the moment, lol)

But if you’re still having trouble, below are 10 of my favorites that I’ve seen couples get  get teary-eyed over the years while taking their first dance as man and wife!

  1. All My Life – K.C. and JoJo
  2. At Last – Etta James
  3. Can’t Take My Eyes Off You – Frankie Valli or Lauryn Hill remake
  4. Fly Me to the Moon – Frank Sinatra
  5. Lost Without You – Robin Thicke (this was actually used for my hubby and my first dance)
  6. For You – Kenny Latimore
  7. Let’s Stay Together – Al Green
  8. Your Song – Elton John
  9. So Amazing – Luther Vandross
  10. It Had to Be You – Billie Holiday

And so many  more….Tell us what song you are considering for your first dance and why you chose it?

Getting Started on Planning my Event

WOW!  Last week I had one of the best weeks a girl could ask for.  I was able to plan three different events on Thursday, Friday and Saturday.  Sound crazy?  Well it could be a little crazy, but with your creative juices flowing and the right planning your event can turn out          amazing

So you have a party to plan or your wedding (which might I add, will be the most important event of the century). You have this vision of what you want it to look like in your head but you don’t quite no where to start!  Well you’re heading in the right direction.

It is so important that I stay with my client’s vision so that their event can have the “look and feel” they’ve dreamt about.  Below are three key elements I start with to get my creative juices flowing while planning an event.

Event Theme

The theme should be something that is significant to you.  It can be a hobby, a favorite sport, or even a certain era in time, such as the Great Gatsby era.  Once the theme is identified, it is important to pull the concept into every design element starting with the Save the Date cards through to the party favors.  Next we focus on…

Great Gastby Collage

Color Scheme

The color scheme is sometimes derived from the theme you’ve chosen.  Choosing the right colors is important because you want it to be representative of your personality and it will drive all of the design decisions made.  I love working with multiple colors in a palette and encourage my clients to pick one or two dominant colors, a sub-dominate color, and two accent colors.  Below is the color scheme chosen for the Great Gatsby event I am working on.  You’ll see black and gold has been used for the dominate/sub-dominate colors and are often associate with the Great Gatsby era.  Next we added a splash of deep red and black/white diagonals as the accent colors because the couple wanted to add a twist on the traditional Great Gatsby concept.  And lastly is your

Great Gatsby Color Scheme

Guest Takeaway

How do you want your clients to feel when they leave your event.  Do you want them to say that was the most awesome party in the world?  Or that it was the swankiest event of the century?  Or we partied like a rock star?  What ever you choose it should be incorporated in the elements you choose for your wedding.

As an event planner, I love being able to create the vision boards for my clients and rely on my past events and other event resources to find the perfect elements to complement their day.  One of the first sneak peeks your guest get into your wedding is the stationery.  There are so many great resources that provide Save the Date Cards, Invitations, and your other stationery needs.  I love to rely on my friends from Paperless Post when my creative juices start flowing because they have so many wonderful items to share.  Some of my faves for a Great Gatsby Themed Wedding from Paperless Post…

Paperless Post Konfetti Gold by Kelly Wearstler

Save the Date from Paperless Post

Konfetti Gold by Kelly Wearstler

Paperless Post Josephine Baker - BlackGold

Invitation, Menu Card, and Wedding Programs from Paperless Post

Josephine Baker also available in Black & Gold

Looking for more design inspiration? Check out these wonderful wedding invitations” target=”_blank”>wedding invitations and other stationery options that are sure to get your juices flowing from Paperless Post.

Are you hosting a party?  Would love to hear about your design ideas?

Take Care,

Erika

My Favorite Things

As an event planner, I find inspiration in many things BUT lately I have this growing obsession for lighting, specifically chandeliers.  I visit a lot of  of venues, and I find myself immediately gravitating to the ceiling to see what type of lighting they have.

These are some of my recent finds:

Chandalier 1
Fairmont Costa Mesa

This next one may be my all time favorite.  It is so whimsical…can you imagine this in the ceiling and your centerpieces having these same crystals dripping from the vase.  OMG how amazing would that be.  I see a vision coming to life :).

L.A. Hotel Downtown
L.A. Hotel Downtown

I’m not sure where I captured this one from, but it is not a traditional chandelier but it has so much flair.  It almost reminds me of having a sea of glass birds flying over you…How cool would that be?

Chandalier 3

If I could have a house full of chandeliers, I would be in heaven….I would keep the lights on all day, but that wouldn’t be very energy efficient and besides my hubby wouldn’t go for that, but a girl can dream can’t she? :).

What are some of your favorite things?  What gives you inspiration to decorate or throw an awesome party?  Leave us a comment so that we can share in your inspiration!

Take Care,

Erika

Give Me One Good Reason I Should Hire a Wedding Planner

I can do better than that, I can give you 5 reason off the top of my head why you should hire a wedding consultant.  The age old question is what do planners actually do and what value add do they bring?

BUDGET ANALYSIS

Do you have trouble budgeting in your day-to-day life?  Well budgeting for your wedding is equally as important.  Planners can work with you first to help you determine your true budget by walking you through all of the elements that should be considered for your wedding.  Although all weddings have some common ground, there may be things specifically for your wedding that would need to be considered.  Most planners have wedding checklists that includes a budget analysis.  A budget will tell you how much you should spend on each major element of your wedding, and it can also help you manage and track what you’ve spent and if you are in jeopardy of going over budget.  I also use the budget to help align my clients with great vendors that fit within their price point.

VENDOR RELATIONSHIPS

Who better than a planner to help you find vendors that fit YOU!  Event planners work with various vendors that all have different pricing, styles, availability, and personalities.  Because a planner works so closely with the bride and groom they understand their wants, needs, personalities, and style.  It is very important to be aligned with the correct vendor.  A planner will be able to take the knowledge they have obtained to pair the couple with just the right vendor.  I want my bride and groom to feel as comfortable with their vendors as they are with me.  The goal is to build an A+ team for my A+ client.

 TIME AND STRESS

Planning a wedding can be a full time job at times.  It takes about 250 hours to plan a wedding.  So add this time, to your already busy schedule of either working, going to school, taking care of family, and did I mention you have to fit sleeping in there somewhere.  If you are having issues trying to juggle everything and stay on task, you should hire a planner.  A planner can remove the stress of planning the wedding.  If only we could quantity the value of having a stress free life, I think we would all be rich.  It is so important for you to enjoy the planning process.  Don’t stress your planning experience away.

MONEY

Planners can help save you money.  Vendors often will give planners special pricing that is passed on to their couple.  Planners are also able to help negotiate fair pricing which can also save money.  I often save my full service clients between $500 and $2,000.

THOSE HIDDEN THINGS

Life happens and planners are experienced in handling sticky situations, as well as, warding off situations that may occur.  Often times, the little things that occur never get to the bride and groom because the planner and his or her team has already resolved it.  Who wouldn’t want the assurance of enjoying their day, knowing that the planner is taking care of all of the details?

These are just a few notes on the value that a planner can bring.  Often clients wished they had hired a planner.  Huffington Post published an article “Why We Didn’t Hire a Wedding Planner..But Wish We Had”  which gives a reflection from a bride on hiring a planner.  I got married 8 years ago, and although I had been a wedding planner for 10 years, I’m sure glad I hired someone to ensure my vision was brought to life.

Take Care,

Erika

Brides Against Breast Cancer – Anaheim

Brides Against Breast Cancer is back in Southern California and they are looking for all Brides, Vendors, and Volunteers interested in participating in their upcoming Charity Bridal Gown Sale.  This is such a wonderful organization and if you’re looking for an awesome gown and a wonderful price, this is an event you don’t want to miss!

Anaheim CA May 2015 Flyer

Brides you will find some awesome deals on gowns by well-known designers and get to see some of amazing vendors. All of this to support a wonderful cause.   BABC is a non-profit organization is committed to raising over $2 million dollars to fund free support services to anyone impacted by cancer.   You can find more info at www.bridesagainstbreastcancer.org.

Erika’s Elegance Weddings and Events is also a sponsor of this wonderful event and will be hosting a booth.  We hope to see you there!

Take Care,

Erika

Happy Mother’s Day

Happy Mother's Day 2015I just want to take today to wish all mothers a Happy Mother’s Day.  I know that Mother’s Day can be an exciting time for some and harder for others who may have loss their mother or their child.  Today is often hard for me because I loss my only son to leukemia so I stand with those mothers and often struggle with wondering if I still am a mom.  BUT today, I celebrate ALL mother’s!  Celebrating those who are here, honoring those who have gone ahead and encouraging those whose children are no longer here.  We are all mother’s!  You deserve to be celebrated.

I hope you enjoy your day!

Take Care,

Erika

 

Brides Against Breast Cancer – Whittier Event

Brides Against Breast Cancer is Coming to Whittier!!!

Whittier CA Flyer

Looking for all brides, come out and get an awesome bridal gown, see some amazing vendors, all while supporting an awesome cause.  BABC is a non-profit organization is committed to raising over $2 million dollars to fund free support services to anyone impacted by cancer.   You can find more info at www.bridesagainstbreastcancer.org.

Erika’s Elegance Weddings and Events is a sponsor of this wonderful event and will be hosting a booth.  We hope to see you there!

Take Care,

Erika

Happy Cinco De Mayo

I had a wonderful time working with wonderful event professionals for this Cinco de Mayo themed bridal shoot.  Great job to Niloufar Gibson of Perfectly Made Weddings, LLC for such a wonderful vision.  I had the pleasure of creating custom stationery for the shoot.

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What an amazing day!

Event Planner – Perfectly Made Weddings
Photos – Krista Mason Photography Florals – The Events Boutique
Stationery – Erika’s Elegance Weddings and Events
Tuxedos – Friar’s Tux
Venue Molaa Art Museum
Linens – Glow Concepts Fine Linens

Have a great day!

Take care,
Erika

Who’s Birthday is it Today?

Is your birthday today?  Well if so…

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Today is my birthday too and I want to celebrate with you!

I haven’t blogged in awhile and boy have I missed you guys.  There is like a longing that you have when you haven’t connected with the blogosphere and man did I feel it.  BUT there was good reason for me not blogging.  As you may have heard me say before, I’ve been busy as a bee….well I have truly been busy as a bee.  I have had events every Saturday and Sunday for the past few months and other stuff in between.  It has been great.  I truly enjoy living out my purpose, passion, and dreams as an event planner.

Well, I’m back and I hope you’re ready to put up with me :).  During my events, I had a chance to do a few milestone birthday parties which were super awesome.  I’ll share those with you, as well as, share a few ideas about throwing an awesome birthday party.

I hope you guys have a great weekend and if it is your birthday or you know someone born on May 1st, drop a line here and wish them a Happy Birthday so we can all share in their special day.

Take Care,

Erika